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Lin Tianling 林天龄’s tree  |  WeChat 微信群 of Liu Bingzhang 刘秉璋   |  xx

左起:刘琬尊、刘瑛闻、刘璧宜 1980s

Dear:
The text and image message history of the WeChat group “文庄公 LBZ 后人” is as follows.
————— 2019-9-24 —————

[Sticker] [Sticker]Irene 凝 [Sticker][Sticker] 11:36 PM
请看一下 文庄公的太太 ?? 年份差不多 。。。但是人 对吗?

————— 2019-9-25 —————

老边 4:12 AM
李昭庆是男士,李季淑的父亲,不是刘秉璋的夫人。

老边 4:13 AM
刘体乾与李季淑是夫妻,刘璧宜是他们的女儿。

脚印 4:19 AM

脚印 4:19 AM
这张照片你们应该有的,

脚印 4:22 AM
@老边 你们与最小的刘瑛闻后人有往来吗?

老边 4:37 AM
有。她的一儿一女都在美国。

老边 4:40 AM

老边 4:41 AM
她们三姐妹1980年代的合影

老边 4:41 AM
左起:刘琬尊、刘瑛闻、刘璧宜

脚印 4:42 AM
哦。

脚印 4:42 AM
在北京拍的。

老边 4:43 AM
上海

老边 4:43 AM
我外婆1984年从上海来北京,就没再回去过。

脚印 4:50 AM
李季淑三姐妹

脚印 4:51 AM
还是四姐妹

老边 4:57 AM
四姐妹。她最小。大概是刚出生父亲就去世了。

老边 4:57 AM
只知道她二姐嫁给了蒯家。大姐、三姐都没查到信息。

脚印 4:58 AM
大姐

脚印 4:59 AM

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脚印 5:01 AM
这是合肥李氏家谱上的,不知你能否看清

老边 5:01 AM
还行

脚印 5:02 AM

脚印 5:03 AM

脚印 5:04 AM
你补充上去,请再发一下,尤其是李夫人名字,如果不是后人大概很难查到,

老边 5:05 AM
好的

脚印 5:06 AM

脚印 5:08 AM
李昭庆儿子大概还要补一翊

脚印 5:14 AM

脚印 5:15 AM
咸丰庚申九月十六日辰时生

脚印 5:21 AM
叙卒于宣统元年五月十一曰,在墨西哥去世

脚印 5:23 AM
生于同治六年

脚印 5:31 AM
翊生于同治戊辰年十月二十四日戍时

老边 5:38 AM
吴学廉也是一位文人?他妹妹嫁给了郑孝胥。

脚印 5:39 AM
王仁堪有硃卷,

脚印 5:40 AM
社会关系非常详细

脚印 5:40 AM

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老边 5:46 AM
王家是开謩公母亲的娘家。她的一个侄女又嫁给了开謩公的四子林新猛。我们有王家的家谱。

老边 5:46 AM
王世襄与林家的后人来往密切

脚印 5:51 AM
硃卷比家谱信息更广

老边 6:02 AM
李经翊的卒年,没查到

脚印 6:04 AM
修谱时健在。

脚印 6:16 AM
翊应该在1929年农历十二月二十九去世

脚印 6:16 AM

脚印 6:43 AM
李经翊有个女儿李国淑,

DNA test 基因: 23andme

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some terms:  on Skig

  • 23 is names after 23 pairs of chromosomes in a normal human cell 在正常人类细胞中有23对染色体
  • gene 基因  
  • 22 autosomal chromosomes 常染色体 + X chromosome X染色体 + Y
  • X chromosome is a sex chromosome: women inherit an X chromosome from each parent, while men only receive an X chromosome from his mother. In men, the X chromosome is paired with the Y chromosome – which is only inherited from his father.
  • haplogroups 单倍型类群 my M7b .. no parental why?
  • DNA is a molecule composed of two chains that coil around each other… wiki  脱氧核糖核酸: 是由两条相互缠绕的链组成的分子 
  • genotyped 基因型 
  • DNA Relatives predicts relationships article read based on the presence of identical “segments” 段 of DNA shared by people who descend from a common ancestor. 50% sib .05% fifth cousin
  • Maternal vs Paternal Relatives
    • your autosomal DNA and your X chromosome(s) X染色体 that you inherit in about equal parts from both of your parents
  • X chromosome X染色体: men get it fm their mom, women fr both. 
    • women inherit 2 X chromosomes, 1 fm mom and 1 fm dad; men get 1 fm his mom.
    • If you are a female who matches someone on the X chromosome, you can dismiss your paternal grandfather’s family since your father inherited his X chromosome from his mother. Alternatively, if you match with a female on the X chromosome, this means that you are not related to her on her paternal grandfather’s side of the family.
  • ..

share approximately % table 

  • 50% of your DNA with a full sibling identical twin 100%
  • 12.5% of your DNA with a first cousin me & Sohpie
  • 0.05% of your DNA with a fifth cousin.

  • 2019.7.27, Alan Chow 3rd to Distant Cousin 0.14% DNA Shared.
    • Predicted relationship Fifth Cousin
    • Shared DNA 0.14% 11cM
    • Shared DNA segments Half identical – 14th bar
    • Maternal Haplogroups me M7b YL N9a1
    • Paternal Haplogroups me not available O-P164
  • 2019.7.27, Yvette Liu 2nd to 4th Cousin 1.24% DNA Shared.
    • Predicted relationship Third  Cousin
    • Shared DNA 1.24% 93cM
    • Shared DNA segments Half identical – 3, 4, 6 bars
    • Maternal Haplogroups me M7b YL B5b
    • Paternal Haplogroups not available for both 
    • 4:08pm Hi Yvette … I just got my report now and still learning to read it. You’re the first one on my report. Wondering if you care to connect and if your great great grandfather was Liu Bingzhang or Zhou Fu? Best wishes Irene Eng
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  • my journey … 2019
    • 7.15 on Amazon Prime Day $99 ($199 normally) 
    • 7.16, kit arrived kib
    • 7.17, send usps in the morning
    • 7.19, 6pm email received by 23andme
    • 7.27, 2:25pm got my report
  • 2019.7.28, 162 3-4th cousins; 1,018 relatives 
  • 2019.7.07, Mavis forwarded me Stephanie’s @ 23&me
  • 2019.7.06: Larry Levy has done his …
  • ..

23andme: Health & Ancestry $199; Ancestry $99 on 2019.7.07


reviews of 23andme on Amazon retrieved on 2019.7.07

  1. 2018 Oct 6,406: 23andme vs AncestryDNA plus Promethease
  2. 2016.11.18 2,328 Solved an 83+ years old mystery

in the media


23andme relationships


Hi Mavis,
How have you  been?  Yes, after much preparation my house was listed about a week ago
I do not recall the details on that DNA test, but is ti really for entertainment purposes.  I think they find some markers in your DNA and run some statistical analysis associating those markers to populations in different geographic areas where they are today.  So it is interesting, a topic of discussion, but it is not precise.  There is probably ways to find is someone is cousin-related, but it would probably be something similar to the paternity tests they do.
Hope all is well.  Love
Ed
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Liu Yao 刘杳 @ Geni

Geni: husband of Xu Jiajia 徐佳佳

I’m a Chinese Curator. My personal interests started with the Manchus, but of course I’m open to any Chinese region or period of time. For now I’d like to focus on notable Chinese (including Chinese Americans) in the last 150 years, and their lineages as far back as possible, in the hope to attract more collaboration and interests.

More recently I started editing profiles en masse, with a “bot” script—purely on the name style, with NO information added or removed. It is, more than anything else, to save countless man-hours that could be spent on more meaningful tasks. Record shows that in April 2018 alone I’ve edited over 100k profiles, the majority of which were done with the bot.

請參閱 Geni華人使用指南

2018.7.31

orphaned person fm PGV Gerry Kroll

PGV page

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  2. 0 @ I 0 0 6 9 @ I N D I – Wang x – Salim’s ggrandpa
  3. 0 @ I 0 1 1 0 @ I N D I – 王 道昌
  4. 0 @ I 0 1 1 1 @ I N D I – 王 道源
  5. 0 @ I 0 1 1 2 @ I N D I – 王 道恒
  6. 0 @ I 0 4 1 7 @ I N D I – 王二姐
  7. 0 @ I 0 4 7 2 @ I N D I – 王大姐
  8. 0 @ I 0 4 8 9 @ I N D I – 王 丕琼
  9. 0 @ I 0 4 9 0 @ I N D I – 王丕橞
  10. 0 @ I 0 5 7 5 @ I N D I – 王丕婉
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  12. 0 @ I 0 8 7 6 @ I N D I – 王丕露
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  14. 1206 张朝锦
  15. 1205 黄月娘
  16. 1207 素玉
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  19. 0 @ F 1 5 6 @ F A M – 徐谦
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  24. 0 @ F 4 9 9 @ F A M – 王丕琼 salim
  25. 0 @ F 5 7 2 @ F A M 张朴珍 (I1788) Liliang
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  27. F 724 黄月娘 + 张
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Irish British genealogy meet up 7 year

Hi Everyone!

Amazing to think just seven years ago I thought I’d try out forming a group for those interested in Irish & British genealogy (and overall genealogy/history) to see if anyone else may be interested! Now are some 411 members strong – so a big thank you for joining the group, for coming out to various events and putting forward recommendations. It means a lot to me and I am thrilled we are an active group and a welcoming group.

Yesterday there was a group gathered was over lunch to celebrate the 7th anniversary – a great mix of long standing members and newly added members. While Woodbines provided a warm setting to connect and dine – it was a little tougher to be able to share tips and stories on a genealogy front and have everyone hear. So I decided to capture the key messages and share them with all as some good tips. Completely unplanned they were all different sources!

RESEARCH TIPS

Patti – shared how helpful the pension records were from National Archives (www.nara.gov) in locating a 90 page pension record – that included doctor’s appointments (!) for one of her ancestors.

Edward – shared how using Findmypast (www.findmypast.ie) and the newspaper records (1841 Irish Examiner) he was able to discover a most interest case involving his g-g-g-grandfather fending off the British soldiers.

Rich – shared his best find in 41 years of research (!) through clicking on google archives. He typed in the surname of interest, pulled up a newspaper and located the FIRST photo ever found of his great great grandfather. The timing was poignant as he was able to share this photo with his father before he passed away.

Joanne – shared in using the National Folklore Collection (www.duchas.ie) in 1938 she was able to unearth more information about her great grandfather via his daughter who wrote of local happenings / family tales.

Marcia – shared her success in using the Search for Missing Friends – the ads that were placed in the Boston paper and through discovering a letter posted here, was able to discover the small town of her ancestors.

Brenda – shared how doing thorough page by page review of the census records and going beyond just the ‘exact’ one proved valuable in uncovering something more about one of her ancestors who was listed as ‘indigent’ as well as ‘inmate’

Raymond – shared how he has written an article on AncestryDNA that will be featured in the May issue of the NEHGS (New England Historic and Genealogical Society) so be on the lookout in the coming months.

Deborah – shared how the free parish records on findmypast.ie have been a great resource as well as the county Facebook genealogy groups.

Bridget – I added the success I found using the 1939 registry taken the night before World War II broke out in England to find my ancestor. This registry captured 41 million lives and their whereabouts at this time and is available via findmypast.co.uk
Last this was an incredible discovery – over lunch – Jim and Patti discovered that they had both grown up in the SAME house, one family had moved out in the same year the other had moved in but never knew this until the lunch!

I will look to find some future opportunities to do sharing of tips as it certainly helps us all in our research whether just starting out or well on our way.

On the events front…

THIS SAT – this coming Sat Mar 12th – so while not quite history related – although will add that a 3rd generation family member is involved in one company (Brennans) and another product is a 145 year oldest family run smokehouse – will be an Irish food & drink event that I’m organizing at the Refinery Rooftop (part of the Refinery Hotel) It runs from 4PM – 8PM and will be bringing together a fabulous line up of Irish food and drink producers. Think cheese, whiskey, chocolate, honey, oats, smoked salmon, cream liqueur + more (aka as Teeling Whiskey, Kerrygold, Ballymaloe, Flahavans, Coole Swan, etc.). More details at www.fareplate.com but if you’d like to come out and support Irish artisans then do join. Tickets are from $40.

APRIL – I pulled together and shared a calendar for April with the upcoming activities focused on the centenary of the Easter Rising: talks, book club meeting, plays, etc. If I can attend I will certainly be showing as RSVP’d, if however I cannot then will mark in the subject line *CALENDAR DATE* to denote the activity but that it will be organizer-less (!). Know though that by posting directly into the specific meetup for the activity all other attendees of that meetup can see. To mean: if you are standing by x wall you may wish to post this or a picture so you can connect with others. Hopefully I can join most/all but work sometimes steps in.

Have a fab Sunday and will see some of you next week at FarePlate, some at the April NYPL session – and at future events.

Regards

Bridget


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Li Qi: 十分冷淡存知己,一曲微茫度此生——张充和

张充和

【这个最着迷于中国传统文化的人,最终却选择了去国离乡。她离开的时候还预想不到,二十多年后,她所着迷的文化在故国大地上被粗暴地清除,三姐夫沈从文被迫去扫女厕所,二姐夫周有光下放到农场。】

“九如巷张家的四个女孩,谁娶了她们都会幸福一辈子。”叶圣陶曾经说过这么一句话。

合肥四姐妹,指的是张元和、张允和、张兆和以及张充和。若我是男子,能在四姐妹中选择一位,最想娶的不是最有名气的三姐兆和,而是小妹充和。
  在不知道充和的存在之前,我以为闺秀这种生物已经在中国大地上绝迹了。完全无法想象,时至今日,在与我相隔数万公里的大洋彼岸,一位101岁的老人仍保持着上个世纪初的生活方式:每日晨起,即磨墨练字,吟诗填词,偶尔和同好们举行昆曲雅集,拍曲互和,以乐终日。
  这位老人,就是现居于耶鲁的张充和。
  她从遥远的民国走来,在旧时月色和习习古风中长大。她的名字,曾经和沈从文、卞之琳、俞振飞等人相连,一同成为那个年代的传奇。如今,故人早逝,时移世易,属于她的时代已经永久地过去了,她却仍然选择活在她的时代里,在去国离乡数万里之外。这是一个奇迹,独属于她的奇迹。
  和林徽因、唐瑛等民国名媛不同的是,张家四姐妹属于传统仕女。她们的爱好、才艺乃至心性都很“旧派”,即使时代再跌宕起伏,生活再颠沛流离,她们仍固执地保持着她们闺秀式的生活方式,时代影响了她们的生活轨迹,她们的生活本质却并未改变。这一点,在充和身上表现得尤为突出:
  她考北大,国文是满分,数学却拿了零分;
  她嫁给了洋人傅汉思,可他是个汉学家,对中国历史比她还要精通;
  她在美国的耶鲁大学任教,教的却是中国最传统的书法和昆曲;
  她常和一位叫咪咪的美国女士切磋中国艺术,后来那位女士成为了比尔盖茨的继母;
  年少的时候,她在苏州拙政园的兰舟上唱昆曲,如今,她仍在耶鲁的寓所和人拍曲。她的箱子里,珍藏着乾隆时期的石鼓文古墨,她的阁楼上,摆放着结婚时古琴名家赠予她的名琴“霜钟”,她亲自莳弄的小园里,种着来自故乡的香椿、翠竹,芍药花开得生机勃勃,张大千曾对着这丛芍药,绘出一幅幅名画。
  张大千甚至还给充和画过一幅仕女图,画于抗战年代。画中的充和只有一个纤细的背影,身着表演昆曲的戏装,云髻广袖,似要凌风飞去。
  也许很久以后,回顾中国艺术史,充和留给后人的印象,就是这么一个淡淡的背影吧。即使是在最好的年华,她也似乎无意正面展现她的美。
  充和出生于合肥一个大家庭,曾祖父张树声曾是淮军将领,官至两广总督。到了充和父亲张武龄这一代,已经“弃武从文”,他索性离开了合肥,在苏州创办了乐益女子中学。
  充和是在上海出生的,在生她之前,母亲陆英已经连续生了三个女儿,所以充和的出生并没有给这个家庭带来太多惊喜。她一生下来,就被叫做“小毛姐”,意思是最小的姐姐,陆英实在是盼望后面能有个儿子了。充和生下后母亲没有奶水,整日啼哭,陆英又要彻夜照顾婴儿,又要管着一大家子人,十分疲累。
  充和的一个叔祖母心疼陆英,主动提出想收养小毛姐,但提出要找人算一卦,怕自己命硬妨害到小孩。陆英爽快地说:“她有自己的命,别人是妨不到的。”就把充和交给了叔祖母。后来充和回忆说,这是因为母亲心大,考虑到叔祖母没有后代,需要过继个孩子做继承人,陆英之后还将四儿子宇和也过继给亲戚了。
  叔祖母把还只有八个多月的充和带回了合肥老家,在那里,她一直生活到十六岁。叔祖母是李鸿章的侄女,很有见识,相当重视小充和的教育。她曾经为充和请过一个先生,那位先生科举气很重,爱教充和骈文之类,她觉得很不满,就给充和换了一个老师。这位老师名叫朱谟钦,是吴昌硕的弟子,既有才学也很开通,他教充和学古文,是从断句开始,一上课就交给她一篇《项羽本纪》,让她用红笔断句。他还专门编了一本同音异义词的书,用来解释词义。
  充和很喜欢这个先生,喜欢的原因之一是“他主张解释,不主张背诵”,另一个原因则是“他居然没有想到骗我的古墨”。充和的一位长辈曾经给过她几锭古墨,她用来练字,朱先生见了,提醒她说:“你小孩子家写字,别用这么好的整墨,用碎墨就行了。”古墨的价值是很高的,充和初到美国生活困窘,忍痛出售了珍藏的十方墨,当时卖出了一万美金。
  朱先生还专门弄来了颜勤礼碑的拓本,教她练字。充和说,颜碑用来打基础是非常好的,直到年老,她每过几年都要临一次颜勤礼碑。可惜后世的颜碑拓本都是经过裱过的,字体太肥,临摹起来完全走样了。
  对比起《牡丹亭》中那个迂腐的先生陈最良,朱先生真是再可爱不过了,难怪春香要闹学了。那时的教育是先生和学生朝夕相处言传身教,充和随朱先生从九岁一直学到十六岁,这七年间,朱先生也只有她一个学生,他留给充和的,应该不仅仅只是深厚的国学知识。
  叔祖母去世后,十六岁的充和回到了苏州九如巷。父亲创办了女学,三个姐姐受的是中西结合的教育,这和充和的私塾教育是完全不同的。姐姐们更为洋派,充和的旧学功底则最好。
  少年时姐妹间发生了一件小事,从中可以看出她们不同的个性。充和回来后有次被分给二姐允和做学生,允和给她取了个新名字叫“王觉悟”,还自作主张把这个名字绣到了充和的书包上。充和见了很不悦,反问道:“哪有人改名字,把姓也改了的?”一贯机灵的允和哑口无言,只得把绣的字一点点拆掉了。忍不住吐槽一句,王觉悟,这个名字真是又红又专啊。
  相对于三个姐姐,充和反而和弟弟宇和相处得最好。宇和小时候也过继给亲戚了,这时两人都刚刚回苏州的家生活,宇和个头大,心细,对这个小姐姐格外照顾,常常带着她到处玩。
  苏州生活让充和的人生路上从此多了项终身陪伴的爱好——昆曲。张武龄和陆英都是戏迷,张武龄还特意请来了苏州全福班的尤彩云来教孩子们唱戏,受此影响,女儿们也喜欢上了昆曲。
  四姐妹中最迷昆曲的是大姐元和,她特别喜欢登台表演,后来甚至嫁给了名小生顾传玠。充和呢,更多的是将昆曲当成“玩儿”,她曾说:“她们喜欢登台表演,面对观众;我却习惯不受打扰,做自己的事。”在苏州拙政园居住时,相传她夜晚常常一个人在兰舟上唱昆曲。
  汪曾祺在回忆西南联大的往事时,也提到过充和不爱扎堆的特点。在文章中,他写道:“有一个人,没有跟我们一起拍过曲子,也没有参加过同期,但是她的唱法却在曲社中产生很大的影响”,“她唱得非常讲究,运字行腔,精微细致,真是‘水磨腔’。我们唱的‘思凡’、‘学堂’、‘瑶台’,都是用的她的唱法(她灌过几张唱片)。她唱的‘受吐’,娇慵醉媚,若不胜情,难可比拟”。
  可惜那个时候没有录像,我们已经很难想象,年轻时候的充和唱起昆曲来,是怎样的娇慵醉媚,难以胜情,幸好张大千以一张仕女图留住了她的风姿。我们只知道,抗战年代,她凭着一出《游园惊梦》,惊艳了当时的重庆。上个世纪80年代末,为纪念汤显祖诞辰三百周年,她回国和大姐元和演了一出《游园惊梦》,仍赢得了满堂彩,其中一张剧照被俞平伯评为“最蕴藉的一张剧照”。
  二十一岁这年,充和以语文满分、数学零分的成绩被北大破格录取。
  当时她怕考不上,报考用了个化名“张旋”,进校后胡适碰到她时曾说:“张旋,我记得你数学不大好。”把她吓了一跳,以为这个可能要被清退了,系里老师安慰她说,胡适那是吓唬你的,都进来了还要补什么补呢。
  北京大学国文系,张充和听过胡适讲文学史和哲学史,钱穆、俞平伯、闻一多都是她的老师。但充和对学校之外的世界更感兴趣,北大旁边的清华,有位专业昆曲老师开课,她经常前往聆听。之后她退学了,患肺病是一个原因,还有个原因是她对学校里的政治集会、共产党读书会之类的活动不感兴趣。
  退学后,充和曾随沈从文一家去过昆明,跟姐姐姐夫住在一起,再后来回到北京,她还是住在沈从文家里。在她眼里,这位三姐夫是个不爱说话,但很有才的人。我一直觉得,四姐妹中,允和、充和对沈从文的理解不在兆和之下。沈从文去世后,远在海外的充和发来悼文:“不折不从,亦慈亦让;星斗其文,赤子其人。”寥寥十六个字,却写尽了沈从文一生,充和可谓沈从文的知音之人。后来这十六个字被铭刻到了湘西沈从文的墓碑上。
  抗战爆发后,充和到重庆教育部礼乐馆工作,结交沈尹默、章士钊等名士,并师从沈尹默学习书法。沈尹默说她的字是“明人学写晋人书”,评价很高。在苏炜的《天涯晚笛》里,说了一个有趣的小故事。沈尹默为人很有绅士风度,一次坚持要送充和去坐公交车。他高度近视,充和担心他找不到回家的路,特意没上车偷偷跟在他身后,直到他平安返家才离去。这对师生的作派,听起来像《世说新语》中一流人物。
  书法可以说是充和一生至爱。她曾说,自己不爱打扮,不喜欢金银珠宝,但笔墨纸砚一定要用最好的。由于长期练习书法,她年老了臂上肌肉仍有如少女般有力。在重庆那段时间,哪怕是经常要跑警报,她仍然坚持书写,防空洞就在桌子旁边,她端立于桌前,一笔一划地练习小楷,警报声一响,就可以迅速钻进洞中躲避。
  谈到女子,总绕不过一个情字。充和最初为大众所知,就是源于一段情事。
  情事的男主角大家并不陌生,他是当时有名的诗人卞之琳。相传那首知名的“你站在桥上看风景,看风景人在楼上看你。明月装饰了你的窗子,你装饰了别人的梦”,就是诗人为充和所作。
  卞之琳是沈从文的密友,那时充和正住在姐夫家里,两人得以相识。于充和,只是多了一个如水之交的朋友,而于卞之琳,却多了一个终生倾慕的女神。卞之琳苦恋张充和,几乎成为了当时文学圈内公开的秘密。他持之以恒地给她写信,甚至在她出嫁后去了美国,仍孜孜不倦。他苦心收集她的文字,在她不知情的情况下,送到香港去出版。他追求她长达十年之久,直到45岁才黯然结婚,对她的爱恋,持续了大半生。
  可是,多年后,和朋友兼学生苏炜谈到这段“苦恋”,张充和说:“这完全是一个无中生有的故事,说苦恋都有点勉强。我完全没有和他恋过,所以谈不上苦与不苦。”他精心写给她的那些信,可能有上百封,她看过就丢了,从来没有回过。她以为这样的态度已经很明确了,可他还是坚持不懈地给她写信。当苏炜问到,你为什么不跟他说清楚呢。充和回答说:“他从来没有说请客,我怎么能说不来。”
  在充和的印象里,卞之琳人很不开朗,甚至是很孤僻的,性格又收敛,又敏感,属于“不能惹,一惹就不得了”的类型。所以她总是不敢“惹”她,从来不敢单独和他出去,连看戏都没有。之所以传出苦恋的传言,可能是因为当事人表白和拒绝的方式都太委婉。
  卞之琳不是充和喜欢的类型,她喜欢性格开朗单纯的人,后来选择的傅汉思就是这种类型。除了性格外,卞之琳的才华也打动不了充和,他当时是以新诗闻名诗坛的,可充和没有被卞之琳和他的诗歌所吸引,她认为卞的诗歌“缺乏深度”,人也“不够深沉”,“爱卖弄”。没办法,教育背景和审美追求都不同,在旧学中浸淫一生的充和对“明月装饰了你的梦”实在是欣赏不了。
  可叹的是,卞之琳从未停止过对充和的这份倾慕。1953年,卞之琳到苏州参加会议,恰巧被接待住进了张充和的旧居,秋夜枯坐原主人留下的空书桌前,痴情的诗人翻空抽屉,瞥见一束无人过问的字稿,居然是沈尹默给张充和圈改的几首词稿,于是宝贝一样地取走,保存了二十余年。1980年卞之琳访问美国时,与充和久别重逢,将词稿奉归原主。充和说他只不过是单相思,可纵然是单相思,能够持续如此之久,感情如此浓烈,即使得不到回应也足够动人了。
  1948年,充和在炮火声中嫁给了傅汉思。那一年,她已经三十五岁了。她和傅汉思也是在沈从文家里相识的,一开始,傅汉思是来找沈从文的,后来就专门来找她了,连沈从文的儿子小虎都亲昵地叫他“四姨傅伯伯”。
  在重庆的时候,章士钊曾向张充和赠诗一首,将她比作蔡文姬:“文姬流落于谁氏,十八胡笳只自怜。”这令张充和很不高兴,她觉得这样比喻是“拟于不伦”。直到嫁给傅汉思后,她每每自嘲道:他说对了,我是嫁给了胡人。
  对傅汉思这个终身伴侣,充和是满意的。她提及他的次数不多,说汉思是个单纯的好人,被人欺负了也不知道。巧的是,这对中西合璧的伉俪称得上志同道合,他们都是中国传统文化的爱好者,充和说汉思的汉学修养很深,对中国历史比她还要了解,写起文章来一篇是一篇,让她很服气。
  这段婚姻对充和的最大影响是她终于选择了远渡重洋。1949年,整个中国面临着翻天覆地的变化,充和敏感地察觉到,自己喜欢的东西在未来的中国缺少梦想的空间。
  “应该让那些‘弹性大,适应力强’的人去接受社会主义革命。”带着这样的想法,充和和汉思在上海搭上个顿将军号前往美国,随身带着一方古砚,几支毛笔和一盒五百多年的古墨。
  这个最着迷于中国传统文化的人,最终却选择了去国离乡。她离开的时候还预想不到,二十多年后,她所着迷的文化在故国大地上被粗暴地清除,三姐夫沈从文被迫去扫女厕所,二姐夫周有光下放到农场。而孤悬于海外的她,反倒保存了一方传统文化的小天地。天地虽小,但能够容下一个优雅而干净的灵魂,已经足矣。
  充和对自己的吟诗作词,有一个特别有趣的比喻,她说自己写东西是“随地吐痰,不自收拾”。
  说这句话时,她已经是九十多岁的老人了,老小老小,心里怎么想就怎么说,真是一派天真,可爱极了。
  充和一生醉心艺术,但始终保持着老派人游于艺的态度,书法也好,诗词也好,都是写了就写了,没想过要结集出版,更没想过要去抢占艺术史上的一席之地。
  她很早就开始了写作,随写随丢,一生中从未主动出版过任何著作。倒是那位暗恋她的诗人一片痴心,私下将她发在报刊上的作品都收集起来,拿去香港付印。在耶鲁任教时,一名洋学生自费给她印了本诗集,名字很美,叫《桃花鱼》,装帧也很美,收入的诗只不过寥寥十几首。她百岁时,广西师大出版社推出了一套张充和作品系列,分别是《天涯晚笛》、《曲人鸿爪》和《古色今香》,收录的其实都是些充和无意中留下的零光片羽。
  充和本是无意于以著作传世的,做什么都是随兴而至,她曾经说过:“我写字、画画、唱昆曲、做诗、养花种草,都是玩玩,从来不想拿出来给人家展览,给人家看。”苏炜回忆他和洋学生向充和学书法时,充和经常用清水在纸上写字教他们,他们试图游说她用墨写在宣纸上以图保存,不料一向温和的老人居然生了气,坚持就要用清水写。
  英国诗人济慈的墓志铭上写着一句话:这里躺着一个人,他的名字写在水上。充和,也是这样一个“把名字写在水上”的人啊。写的过程就是消失的过程,像飞鸟掠过,天空却并没有任何痕迹。
  不过,充和这样旧派的人,未必会喜欢这类新诗风味的句子。她自撰的诗中有一句意思和此相仿,足以概括平生:十分冷淡存知己,一曲微茫度此生。
  这一曲微茫,正是民国年间的古韵遗响。随着那个年代的远去,已成绝唱。

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